Monday, November 16, 2009

A Warm Fuzzy for a Friend

I wanted to express my love and pride in my friend Alex today ...

Over the last year at different times we've both had plenty of wonderful moments, and plenty of stressful moments; it comes with being parents, it comes with being married, it comes with working, it comes with not working ... it comes, in short, with being an adult. Of late, as I've been particularly frustrated with not having enough hours in a day to keep a beautiful home AND find a great job AND be an awesome wife AND be the fabulous mom I want to be, she has had the attitude that I need; the 'enough!' attitude, the 'look around and see what wonderful things you have and appreciate them' attitude. We've both talked each other through some ups and downs since re-becoming friends a couple of years back, and I am so proud to see how much she's grown even just in that time, and I can only hope to do the same! So ... today as I've been frustrated with being sick, with how the chores never end, and with the lack of work, I'm going to take a page from Ms. Alex's book and say ...

  • I am thankful I have a wonderful 1-year-old son, to whom I am a good mom; of that list above, I know my house can be a pigsty sometimes, I know I'm still looking for work, and I know those things sometimes get taken out on the hubby, making me a less-than-ideal wife; but I KNOW I'm a good mom to Little Tyke. At the end of my days even if there aren't many things I can add to my list of 'I was wonderful at ...', 'being mommy' will be the one I will ensure DOES make the list.
  • I am thankful for Ari who is patient even when I am not (see above), and who even accepts my sometimes distracted, mind-wandery, less than productive days. I am the stay-at-homer right now, so a lot around here falls on me; but he does more than his share when he is home and gives me a break and I love him for that.
  • For that matter I'll just say I'm lucky for all the family and friends I have; we all have our ups and downs but the people who are in my life now have been there when the chips have been down; through countless moves, through the stops-and-starts of an early teaching career, through parenthood; they appreciate my good qualities and forgive the less-than-good, and for that I am thankful and do the same in return. Especially those I have struggled with, that they have stuck around and taken the time to work through said struggles, and given me the opportunity to do the same - I appreciate that.
  • I am thankful for my education and my career; as frustrating as it is now, there is little more fulfilling from a professional standpoint than having a job in which you know you've done good at the end of the day; Ari is experiencing this now with his new job, and I experience it every time I am in a classroom. I love working with children and young adults, and I can only hope I impact them and teach them as much as they do me!
  • I am thankful for my lovely home and vow to show it more love and appreciation lol.
And so much more ... I am lucky to have the material things I do; cars, TVs, computers ... heck, even food, toiletries, etc. ... aren't to be taken for granted .. my pets ... my very cool new hometown, and my 'other home' to which I love returning ... all of these things last; those which frustrate me, don't. And Alex? Thank you for teaching me that by example. :) Love you!

1 comment:

Alex said...

Aw you made me cry lol. Thank you. For saying the things you did.

We do sometimes need to verbally acknowledge all the positive things. I know we (we in general) see them but we don't always acknowledge them, especially to the people that should know that we see those positives :)

Lots of hugs.

xoxo